IF IT STAYS LONGER, IT PENETRATES DEEPER

Today, I want to touch upon a feeling which ALL of us would have experienced at least once. Our reaction to that feeling might have been different, but the degree of stimulant would have been uniform. In the age between 25 to say 45, we would have fought within us, for us and against us. While we start to extend our latitudinal vision for what we can achieve in our professional life on one side, we refrain from the upcoming changes in our personal life. The “personal life” in this context is our transition to get out of our nest to fulfill our dreams AND our parents’ and elders’ transition from adult to senior people. To care for those who once cared for us, is one of life’s greatest blessings, if understood. The fight between our reluctance for something different to happen V/s our zeal to achieve heights is never ending. I personally believe, this is one of those very rare emotions which we can not control, we can only suppress when it ignites. This is only because there can not be any solution to this. We can only accustom ourselves to live with this and try to keep a balance between the two. Our struggle is our win, in this case.

I read about a Japanese movie which narrates a story of a Café. The movie name is “Before The Coffee Gets Cold”. The movie circulates around a mysterious rumor that at a specific table and chair in that Cafe, one can travel back to a time of their choice. Ofcourse, one can not change the past while re-visiting it, but can live and feel those moments again. This is all fiction, but the purpose of this notion is introspection. Everyone in this world would have their own good and bad moments. A feeling to re-cherish, time to repent, a moment to forgive, a minute to ask for a sorry, and what not. It helps to drop that left over of past to rejuvanate our soul. Our life moments get doubled if we can live our good moments again. For the bad ones, my understanding is completely different.

We are always taught to forget the bad incidents of our life. It takes a second to move on from everything but finding that second may take a lifetime. If we are hurt by something/someone, that will stay with us for long. I do not feel the need of running away from that feeling. Escapism can never work here. We all grew up from wanting presents to needing presence. Similarly, holding that right requirement (as I would call) within us, make us realize that we are made of struggles, not comforts and we are strong enough to evolve out of it. That feeling of losing your near and dear ones should never make you weak. Do not imbibe nothingness just because it helps you to bug out. Trust me, surviving with that feeling of losing someone physically and not emotionally will eventually turn into your biggest strength. You would be stronger than you ever envisioned.

Do not lose that someone you never wanted to. The best tribute you can give is turning their eternal presence from pain to power.