Wabi-Sabi : The Art of Imperfection
Self
THERE COMES A TIME IN EVERYONE'S LIFE WHEN WE ARE LEFT WITH TWO OPTIONS, EITHER TO TURN THE PAGE OR CLOSE THE BOOK
I have always been fond of viewing homes (not houses). I love to see and understand the way people decor their house with different hues, design language, artifacts and what not. Initially, I used to admire people for their choice of things, but now I seek for something beyond. I attempt to feel the warmth or the soul of the house that it has to offer. I peep in for things that make any house a home. That little mess, a lot of cosiness, somebody sleeping at odd times, somebody awake at midnight, books here and there, quilts on bed and the list goes on. That’s how a home is. Never perfect but always pleasant.
I recently watched Apollo 13 documentary on Netflix. The mission which was intended to land and study the darker side of the moon, eventually became a mission of survival. What happened, good and bad both, was mighty far from imagination. It was not the first mission to the moon and hence, was more traumatic. The astronauts and the control room team jointly executed two plans which were completely untouched and untested. It was all in the theory before. On paper, the mission miserably failed but gave the learning of a lifetime. This imperfect mission polished the world of science with many perfect lessons.
Finding lessons, accepting fate at tough times is the ultimate testimony for an individual. Desperately aspired results, having transitioned through the process, constant hope and condolences may not come to our rescue. Whenever we start believing that grass is greener on our side, fate silently takes away a piece from our complete dish. At times, we may feel stranded despite having everybody on our side. This is because the piece that is taken away was very much intrinsic to us. We are bound to live with at least one incomplete wish ALL our life. This is how the natural cycle of life works. The purpose of life is to make us whole, not complete. Life is like an Abstract Art. Nothing is perfect and it is not even painted to be perfect. The colors, shapes, forms, marks all fuse together to create a picture of our perspective. Likewise, good times, struggles, bad days, happy moments, regrets, everything accumulates to make us experience an effect called life.
Opting out from keeping patience and closing the book can never even close a chapter in real sense. Not everything gets the closure we want; it closes the way it deserves. We know what we can do only when we face what we don’t want to. Cry, repent, regret but never quit. Destiny may unfold the most beautiful chapter of our life in the next page. Let’s sincerely try to convert this tough time into preparation time. Mind you, this shift in focus will squeeze you, drain you and hurt you, but help you for sure.
My sister told me once, “When you put a Diya in the Ganga waters, don’t try to direct its path by creating water waves for it to move. Your job is to put the Diya and let it float. It will take its own direction and reach its destination. You don’t know where the Diya must reach for you, only HE knows. You do your job and let him do the rest.”
If I must summarize the musing of my own life, I believe that some people are afraid that God is watching them, and some have trust that God is watching them. I lived and aspire to live with the latter thought. Closing the book is always an easy option, whether it’s about a tough time or a relation. What drains you is the courage required to turn the page and optimistically look for what’s coming. Anything that hurts proves that it’s real. So is life!